The mind automatically judges every experience we have as either good (I like this – I want more), bad (I don’t like this – I have to make it stop), or irrelevant (this isn’t worth paying attention to). See if you can objectively notice these involuntary thoughts in your daily life and step back from believing them or acting on them. Just let them arise and pass away. You don’t have to judge the judging.
Be patient with yourself. Your growth happens in its own way and in its own time. Embrace the process, embrace this moment, and fully embrace yourself. This kind of patience helps us to love ourselves completely and unconditionally in this moment. Don’t wait to love yourself – if not now, then when?
See everything with new eyes. Try to open to each new moment and everything in it as though it were the first time you were here – your emotions, your loved ones, nature, etc. Doing so helps to reconnect us with a fresh sense of openness, curiosity, genuine interest, and wonder.
Develop a basic trust in yourself and your feelings. Trust in your own authority and intuition, even if you make some “mistakes” along the way. Learn to honor your feelings and take responsibility for yourself and your own wellbeing.
Hand-in-hand with patience and non-judging, adopting an attitude of non-striving allows us to settle into this moment and rest from the life-long struggle of trying to get to someplace “better.” Counterintuitively, healthy personal growth is nourished more by “being” than by “doing.” Just be yourself and rest in the profound peace that comes with realizing that you are never not yourself. You are enough.
In this context, acceptance is not synonymous with compliant, passive, or uninvolved. It simply means having the willingness to step back from mental and emotional reactivity knowing that you are big enough and capable enough to handle whatever arises within you and around you. Wisdom and insight are more easily accessible from this inner stance, and you are more likely to respond creatively and authentically to whatever you encounter.
The opposite of letting go is control and we can exhaust ourselves by trying to control everything within and around us. And have you noticed that what we try to control actually controls us? By letting go and stepping back from the habit of control we enter a place of inner peace and freedom. We become more resilient, and find ways of engaging Life that might have been beyond our reach before.